When you look in the mirror what do you see? Are you happy or do you stand there and pick yourself apart body part by body part, wishing you saw something different?
Here's the thing- in this new social media era, somehow the concept of body image has been so insanely distorted that truth be told no body really knows how THEY want their body to look. All they see is what SOCIETY thinks it should look like. Last time I checked other people didn't live your life, you do.
All these new online apps come out and the majority of the world sits on these apps scrolling through seeing how happy everyone else is, how 'in shape' they are, that being lean is the only type of sexy... and about 9 million other ridiculous concepts about what to eat, how to live, how to look etc...
When let's be real here- what you see in photos is not always how it actually is. It's an image of what they want you see about them or their life.
In my opinion there is no such thing as perfection and if anyone thinks differently I would love to hear what your definition of perfect is because arguably everyone has a different way of doing things, they value different things, they look differently and the list goes on... therefore one persons definition of 'perfect' is not another's. It's that simple.
The other day a close friend of mine asked me "why is life so hard?" and my answer to them was this: I believe we make our own lives hard. When you look in the mirror and hate what you see, who's fault is that? sure, we can bull shit each other and say 'oh well, social media makes me feel like I'm not good enough because I don't look this way.' but who's the one consistently looking at things that bring them down? YOU. One might say 'oh, so and so just became a doctor and I still don't know what I want to do with my life so I'm not successful', really? Well who measures what success is? That's right YOU do. And just and FYI, for anyone who has read my previous articles... SUCCESS is measured in about 7 billion different ways. What deems you as successful is up to you, and that is something no body else can take away from you.
For so many years I've stood in front of a mirror and hated every inch of what I saw. I would let other people's comments tear me apart. People who didn't know me. I finally asked myself
'why do I care so much about what someone else thinks of me?' since when did their opinion of me outweigh my OWN opinion of myself.
Here's why... I didn't know who I was. I wasted time trying to be what other people thought I should be. I did extreme diets to look how others wanted me to look in place of doing what I wanted and essentially being healthy and having my body at a sustainable weight. Anyone who yo-yo diets with all these new fads knows exactly what I am talking about. It's a shitty way to live. All I did was sit there and be uncomfortable in my own skin with no confidence.
It's taken YEARS to finally be confident in myself and not just appearance wise. To me, true confidence exudes strength, happiness, and fulfillment. Strength in the mind, body and soul. Next time you sit there scrolling through social media, or passing by someone and wishing you looked like them or what it is that you do that leaves you feeling bad about yourself- remember that nothing in this life can make you fear inferior unless YOU let it. In case you haven't caught on 99% of my posts are all MINDSET related because I'm desperately hoping that you readers see that mindset is the key to everything. So when you catch yourself doing things that bring you down, stop and realize that the choices you're making are not leading you down a path of positivity. They are not enhancing your life in any way, shape or form.
My tips- change what you do. Instead of wishing you looked a different way, write down things you are grateful for. In place of wishing you had a better career, seek sources to help you take steps to achieving that career you really want. You have the power and when people finally start to realize that, there is nothing that can ever stop you from pursuing any dream because nothing will be out of reach.
Make the CHOICE, to take a CHANCE, to CHANGE your life.
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