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Wants, Needs and Desires... Are they really different?



It’s one of those days where you sit and look at your life and wonder how you got here?
Where is here? Well... here is sitting in my living room, drinking my coffee, thinking about all things I have done and all those I haven’t; my aspirations and my achievements, contemplating if I could be doing more...
Am I using more in the sense that these are things I want verses things I need? Will what I want lead me to a deeper fulfillment, therefore making me feel more satisfied with where I am in life or is that just my mind creating new ways to avoid what appears to be a “problem” with my current state of living.
Question of the hour: “What is behind your compulsive desire to improve?”
‘I want to be better’ VS ‘I need to be better’... what’s the difference? Does your want to be better stem from the same seed that drives your need to be better?
People will tell you that ‘needs’ are your basics; food, water and shelter and that a ‘want’ is something you’d like to have... a desire, you could say. However, are our basic needs not desires as well? Last time I checked everyone desired a home, desired food, desired clothing...  So where do you definitively draw the distinction between a want Vs a need in this scenario? Who is to say that the drives behind the two are not the same?
Therefore, is my contemplation for feeling the need to do more really a need... which if you’re reading this far you’ll notice I just said ‘feeling the need to do more’ meaning subconsciously I’ve already established that it is a requirement in my life’s purpose to seek more.
Would it change its whole meaning if I would have phrased it; “Is my contemplation for wanting to do more really a necessity to my over-all being?”
And here comes the flood of debatable answers to that question...
Wanting and needing to do more, and to seek more... in my opinion stem from the same place, which is the desire to continually learn and experience new things. I have yet to meet one person who can openly admit that they’d be satisfied floating by as life happens around them.
So all that being said- where do your desires come from? What propels your need/want to have it? When it comes to desires do you think there is a clear cut difference between wanting more and needing more? What’s the underlying reason?

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