Do you ever catch yourself wishing; you had more; that you looked different; or you could trade lives with someone else? I've totally been guilty of this... and if we're being completely honest here, I'm pretty sure the majority of the people in this world are also, guilty of this.
We see all sorts of amazing, fun, adventurous things and people online now that it's hard to tell what's reality and what's fantasy. People have now created YouTube channels documenting their lives 24/7, this supposed "real & raw" footage of what their live is... or at least what they present it to be. Here's the thing- no one in this world lives a perfect life. As mentioned in previous posts I don't believe in perfection. Why? because one persons definition of perfection will not be anothers, therefore as controversial as the word is, for simplicity sake- it merely does not exist in my vocabulary.
As a kid, I always thought that when I was an adult I'd have a house, I'd be millionaire, be married to the hottest guy ever, have five kids and travel the world... not saying any of those things aren't possible but what I really should have focused on was: what did I need to do to achieve those things in my life? What type of schooling did I need to get the career I wanted? How was I going to find funds to buy my house, to support a family, to become the millionaire I always told myself I would be. All those REALLY IMPORTANT questions got lost in my fantasy of how I thought the world worked. Looking back, if I could see my younger self I would tell her to put effort into anything and everything she did, I would tell her that looks fade, so don't get so hung up on the superficial side of life, I would tell her to save $20/month and tuck it away for a raining day... I would tell her that it's OK not to have it all figured out.
Now, here I am, adult and all and I'm realizing that life plans do not always work out how you thought they would. It is only now that it is really sinking in that I'm not a kid anymore, time isn't slowing down and I'm at the point in life where I'm ready to start a family... to build a life with my partner, and have a steady stable career to contribute to my family. Every person hits these moments at different times, under different circumstances... some learn it younger, some mid 20's, 30's... hell maybe in their 50's... The point is, it's time to stop wishing and start creating. How do you create? By DOING.
Sharing and building a life with someone isn't sunshine and flowers. It's disagreeing, listening, learning, accepting, loving, cherishing and evolving. Not every moment is happy and not every moment is sad. Accepting a person for who they are, in place of who you want them to be (and if you're with someone and want them to be someone else, you shouldn't be with them). Building a life with someone is cherishing the moments together, yet allowing each other to have individual freedom.
Just remember what you see isn't always as it is presented. Look at the good things in your life, the good people who support you, and find solitude in the small things life has to offer. The rarest treasures are found in those moments and they create memories that will stay with you for the rest of your life. Instead of wishing you had someone else's life, create it for yourself, build a life with someone who allows you to be who you are, and let them be your biggest fan... and I promise they will forever cheer you on. Don't let anyone or anything hold you back- put in the effort and have a career you love. The key to all this is PUTTING IN THE WORK.
That means; continually working on yourself; your career; your relationship; your friendships and not being afraid to ask questions and demand answers.
Your Life Is What You Make It!
We see all sorts of amazing, fun, adventurous things and people online now that it's hard to tell what's reality and what's fantasy. People have now created YouTube channels documenting their lives 24/7, this supposed "real & raw" footage of what their live is... or at least what they present it to be. Here's the thing- no one in this world lives a perfect life. As mentioned in previous posts I don't believe in perfection. Why? because one persons definition of perfection will not be anothers, therefore as controversial as the word is, for simplicity sake- it merely does not exist in my vocabulary.
As a kid, I always thought that when I was an adult I'd have a house, I'd be millionaire, be married to the hottest guy ever, have five kids and travel the world... not saying any of those things aren't possible but what I really should have focused on was: what did I need to do to achieve those things in my life? What type of schooling did I need to get the career I wanted? How was I going to find funds to buy my house, to support a family, to become the millionaire I always told myself I would be. All those REALLY IMPORTANT questions got lost in my fantasy of how I thought the world worked. Looking back, if I could see my younger self I would tell her to put effort into anything and everything she did, I would tell her that looks fade, so don't get so hung up on the superficial side of life, I would tell her to save $20/month and tuck it away for a raining day... I would tell her that it's OK not to have it all figured out.
Now, here I am, adult and all and I'm realizing that life plans do not always work out how you thought they would. It is only now that it is really sinking in that I'm not a kid anymore, time isn't slowing down and I'm at the point in life where I'm ready to start a family... to build a life with my partner, and have a steady stable career to contribute to my family. Every person hits these moments at different times, under different circumstances... some learn it younger, some mid 20's, 30's... hell maybe in their 50's... The point is, it's time to stop wishing and start creating. How do you create? By DOING.
Sharing and building a life with someone isn't sunshine and flowers. It's disagreeing, listening, learning, accepting, loving, cherishing and evolving. Not every moment is happy and not every moment is sad. Accepting a person for who they are, in place of who you want them to be (and if you're with someone and want them to be someone else, you shouldn't be with them). Building a life with someone is cherishing the moments together, yet allowing each other to have individual freedom.
Just remember what you see isn't always as it is presented. Look at the good things in your life, the good people who support you, and find solitude in the small things life has to offer. The rarest treasures are found in those moments and they create memories that will stay with you for the rest of your life. Instead of wishing you had someone else's life, create it for yourself, build a life with someone who allows you to be who you are, and let them be your biggest fan... and I promise they will forever cheer you on. Don't let anyone or anything hold you back- put in the effort and have a career you love. The key to all this is PUTTING IN THE WORK.
That means; continually working on yourself; your career; your relationship; your friendships and not being afraid to ask questions and demand answers.
Your Life Is What You Make It!
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