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Balance Series Episode 2 Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail

Relaxation with the side of guilt, alone time with the side of guilt, dirtier than usual house with a side of guilt and hint of frustration, feeling frustrated, sad, depressed, or even happy with a helping of confusion... ever notice how one thing is usually accompanied by some other confusing emotion or twist events?? 

Lately all I feel is guilt when I want to sit on the couch, put my feet up and relax because there are 7 million other things I could/ should be doing... The dishes need to be done, supper needs to be cooked, the laundry is still waiting to be folded, my living room table is dusty and the list goes on... Everything you think you should be doing in place of what you feel like doing. The thing i'm starting to realize is why do we make things so damn complicated? Since when was it not ok to follow how we feel?  If  I want to take an hor to relax... so what? The dishes aren't in the dishwasher yet but before I go to bed every night they're always loaded and clean for the morning, who says they need to be done in a strict time manner? Why is it a bad thing to ask for some alone time? oh, that's right, it's not. Some times change can cause conflict as most people would agree, however sometimes the change is necessary to reach the next level. To achieve something greater then what is in front of you. 

When I am feeling unmotivated or guilty or whatever the emotion at that time seems to be I always ask myself:
1. Why do I feel this way?
2. How can I change it?
3. What is the outcome if I don't?
4. What is the outcome if I do?

Here's an example:

I feel exhausted because I am overwhelmed with the trying to juggle school, work and household needs.
I can change it by writing day to day lists of what needs to get done that day as oppose to trying to shove everything into one night and do it half-assed.
If I don't change my behaviour I will risk potentially not graduating in June.
If I do change it, I will be more successful, feel less overwhelmed, and have a sense of accomplishment. 

There is something about simply writing it out that seems to put into perspective. It's a plan for success,  "fail to plan, plan to fail". 

Feelings don't just fly away because we want or maybe even need them too. They are emotions we need to sort through and understand in order to move forward on a positive path. Being able to understand why you feel a certain way honestly really helps keep yourself and the relationships you have in balance. The ability see your actions and hear your words. The tone of voice or your body language... they all add up and contribute to your ultimate life success in anything you do. There are times I struggle and wonder how I am I going to pull myself out of this one? It can be easy to toss your hands up and say fuck it, but what good will that do me? 

Always plan for success, learn from failure, grow through hardship and pursue your greatest dream.

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